Darn.

Seems all of us have to put up with such insensitive remarks about our voices whenever we are out in public; but, *on-the-job* (where you have to go every day in order to support yourself) it's a totally different story.

It happened to me also (shortly after my vocal surgery - same thing where someone was mocking my voice and I asked him to stop and he continued) so I know what you're talking about. Once or twice, you can just let it roll off and figure there are idiots everywhere, but if it continues and is persistent, it's tantamount to "taunting" and harassment. There are laws against that in the workplace. It's similar to sexual harassment and nobody considers that a joke anymore.

The guy who did it to me ended up being called in by the HR department and given a reprimand and warning. IE: "if it happens one more time, your job is in jeopardy." A month later, he resigned (having little to do with taunting me). He had other problems.

I hope your employer handles this situation in a respectful and professional manner. What I mean is - I hope they pay attention to you and consider that the other person's behavior (as opposed to your voice) is the problem. He could be picking on anyone for any reason (and your employer could be in trouble if they don't address that behavior). You just happened to be his current target.

Good luck and keep us posted,

I'm truly sorry this happened to you. And, I'm so glad you reported the perpetrator because someone so ill-mannered and stupid is certainly a liability to your employer.

However, I would respectfully like to suggest an alternative perspective on this situation to you. The reason your coworker persisted in his bad behavior is because he was getting what he wanted. He wanted to upset you. You got upset. He was winning so he continued. You could have won. And, if this happens outside the workplace, you are on your own in dealing with such bad behavior.

So, please allow me to tell you how to win. First, don't get upset. He was a jerk. Don't expend emotional energy on someone who does not deserve your attention. Second, consider the following replies as examples of how to stop the guy from continuing his behavior:

1. Smile broadly and say, "Oh, thank you. How sweet of you to talk like me so I don't feel so conspicuous because of my disability." If appropriate, give a squeeze to a hand or arm. Here in Texas, you might even be able to get away with a little hug or peck on the cheek. (It is important that you refrain from throwing up on the guy even though you probably will feel like it.)

2. Smile broadly and say, "Oh, thank you. It is said that imitation is the most sincere form of flattery. But, honey, you don't have it quite right." Then proceed to make corrections to his mimicry.

These types of responses are even better if delivered in front of others.

If you get upset, he wins. If you don't, you win. If you really shut him up, you get extra points. And, you've probably done a public service. He'll think twice before he again is rude to a disabled person.

Renee, don't let the turkeys get you down. They are for slaughter and cutting up for lunch (PETA members: this comment in intended figuratively, only.)

All the best,

Linda

That's great - sounds very Texas to me, Linda! As a Yankee though, I at first was so embarrassed and confused about my voice that I don't think I would've stood up for myself. So I think any positive reaction is good. Renee, you're definitely in the right in utilizing a supervisor to help stop this moron. And I think with more comfortability and time, being able to turn the tables on someone like Linda suggests will come. I'm working on getting there myself.