Hello Toad,Welcome to the SD bulletin board.
Excellent question. I have the same situation you describe, so most of my comments relate to my own case. However, I've asked this question of numerous specialists (and researched the Internet) since my larynx collapsed over two years ago - due to over-use and over-compensation in order to talk. What I've been told (to explain why my false cords and arytenoids have cut off my breathing) relates to your description.
In general, it's not good to talk with the false cords, since they're not designed for phonation. They are muscles adjacent to the true vocal cords (folds). The more we talk with them (rely on them), the more bulked up they get. Bulked up false cords (ventricular phonation) can compromise the breathing-function of the larynx, at a point.
Like you, I thought I was doing pretty good for several years after vocal surgery. I was even able to go back to work. My voice was smoother and purer (no severe AD spasms, straining), even though low-volume and weak. I figured out how to "talk around" the continuing vocal quality/volume/breathing issues, post RLN. It was a big surprise, two years ago, to discover that those compensatory mechanisms (in order to talk over noise, etc.) had actually damaged my larynx.
After numerous videostroboscopies (an education), and speech therapy, I now can hear/feel when I'm talking with my true cords (rarely) and when I'm talking with my false cords (most of the time) so, if the true cords don't engage, I don't talk. It's close to impossible to control though. It's more a matter of listening to (and feeling) what is going on in my larynx, so avoiding talking when the false cords decide to engage. Five weeks of not talking at all earlier this year improved things. I can only assume that my false cords "unbulked" during that time.
As we frequently acknowledge on this BB, everyone is different so I'm not saying that the same thing would happen to you, or anyone else, as happened to me. But, it's good to be aware of what might happen, if continuing to talk with the false cords. Your post was astute.
Also, as an aside, one of the speakers at the Dallas Symposium last month (SLP) mentioned that it is also not good for us SD'ers to "whisper," as whispering tends to engage the false cords. Plain and simple, the false cords aren't designed for phonation so if we use them for phonation, it could possibly result in future laryngeal problems.
Thanks for bringing up the subject and I hope others, who may be dealing with something similar, will add comments.
--Lynne (AD/SD, with RLN surgery; Northern California)